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White Men Dating Asian: Pros and Cons

November 3, 2013 0 Comments

The pros and cons of white men dating Asian and other interracial couplings are numerous

You might not have thought about white men dating Asian women but it’s common.  You might have been dating someone outside your race when you were growing up, because you grew up in Orange County and everyone around you were Caucasian.  Or maybe you are from Hong Kong so everyone around you were Chinese.  So now you live in LA and one thing is for sure….lots of diversity.  Wow, you think.  It’s like a salad bar with all different “things” to try.  You see white men dating Asian, you see black men dating Asian, and the list goes on and one.  For some people, dating someone of a different ethnicity can be thrilling and scary at the same time.  People who don’t look like your parents and relatives look exciting to you.  

At Catch Matchmaking, we have some blondes who want their partners to have darker skin.  We work with African Americans who only want to date blondes.  We work with white men dating Asian women.  We have Asian men who only want to date non-Asians.  Los Angeles is a great place to meet people organically.  Maybe you never thought ‘he’ was your type, but since you work together, you loved his jokes and his personality, and next thing you know, you’re dating.  What a great city we live in where there is so much diversity.  The one most common for us is still white men dating Asian women, from China, Japan, Philippines, Vietnam, Korea, and all over.  We even have white men dating Asian women in Hong Kong and make a trip over there through our Asian Vacation Program.

Have you ever traveled to a different country and realized that the women living there were beautiful and you want to date someone that looks likes that, exotic and different?  Or you were in Spain and you came back to the U.S. yearning for a spicy Latin guy?  You see a bunch of white men dating Asian women in an Asian country and think, ‘wow, that’s cool.”

Sometimes you just don’t want to date what you’re used to.  We often hear Asian women complain they don’t want to date Asian men because they remind them of their brother.  Whatever the reason why people choose to date outside of their race, hopefully you can respect that.  White men dating Asian women choose to because of her culture, language, and values.

white men dating asianAt Catch Matchmaking, we’re no stranger to  interracial dating of white men dating Asian women.  Some of us are in a committed relationship with someone outside our race.  Relationships are tough as is, but throw the race card into the mix and sometimes it gets way too complicated….at least for the relatives of theinterracial couple.  But like all forms of dating,interracial dating has its perks and its challenges.

Just remember that it wasn’t until the 1960s thatinterracial dating became legal in the U.S., so even though we’re seeing more interracial couples, there are still some people who aren’t as accepting of the idea.

Is interracial dating right for you? Below are the pros and cons of interracial dating, whether it’s white men dating Asian or all of the other ethnicities mingling. Check them out:

The Pros of white men dating Asian women and other interracial coupling

white men dating asianYou Get to Learn a Different Language and Culture

This is the fun part. When May started dating her non-Asian boyfriend and introduced him to dim sum and then some, he was freaking out about the chicken feet and tripe.  Yep, sometimes white men dating Asian women get freaked out by the food.  Food from other cultures can gross people out, but hopefully if you’re dating someone from another race, you are open minded about them and their food.  So what if they smell up your house with kim chee or stinky tofu?  It’s a small price to pay for having arm candy.  Just kidding.  The respectful thing to do when you are presented with something you don’t want to eat is just say, “No thanks.”  Just don’t go into a whole speech about why it grosses you out.

If you are not bi-lingual, this is your chance to learn a new language.  It’s neat when white men dating Asian women really take an interest in their customs and cultures.  It’s pretty cool to learn new words when you travel to another country, so why not learn some new words when you’re dating someone who speaks another language?  So May’s boyfriend only can say three things in Cantonese:  “What time is dinner?”, “jogging,” and “good morning.”  When you date someone outside your race, you get to learn more about their language and culture.  It’s nice if you can say a few things to your ethnic love-bug’s family in their native tongue.  :)  Dating someone from another country is like  traveling to a different country but better! You’ll learn about the way your partner grew up, what his or her values are, and what their family and friends are like. Maybe you’ll learn more about their religion and what they believe in. Dating someone outside your race gives you a different view of life and how to live it.

white men dating asianYou are Adding Diversity to your Social Network

By dating outside your race, you are adding diversity to your social network.  But be careful to not just hang out with people outside of your race.  You might be accused of having yellow fever, jungle fever, the latin heat, or wanting some chocolate lovin’ (ok, don’t get offended, this is just what we hear).  Having a diverse group of people in your social network keeps you open-minded and understanding of other people. Your friends and family members will also learn about another culture when they hang out with your partner. Dating someone outside your race also breaks down stereotypes. In other words, you are making society better.  White men dating Asian women have the American culture and the Asian culture in mind.

white men dating asianYou’ll Make Beautiful Children if Things Get Serious

There’s no doubt about it. Mixed children are good-looking and have the best of two worlds (or more). People like Keanu Reeves, Maggie Q, Bruno Mars, Vanessa Hudgens, Tiger Woods, Chanel Iman and Kristin Kreuk are mixed people. If you get serious with a person of a different ethnicity, you are on your way to creating a beautiful family. Who doesn’t love almond eyes with blonde hair?  Ok, not everybody, but you get what we’re saying.  Make sure you learn about how to raise biracial children and that your offsprings learn from both parents and where they came from.

The cons of white men dating Asian and other interracial coupling

Coping with Traditional Family Members

Some families, especially traditional ones, prefer their offspring to find a husband or wife of the same race. Why? Because they are racist, want to be able to communicate easily with their in-laws, and can relate to their own kind.  People of the same race have similar lifestyles and values. So what happens when people introduce a lover outside their race to their family? It makes them uncomfortable. Parents think of several questions, such as “can they communicate with us in our language? Do they have the same values? Are they going to raise their children the same way we raised ours?” When you run into a family like this, be prepared.  It make take you longer to win them over or they might never come around.  (Usually they come around when they see their grandchildren.)

Your Partner Might Have Different Values

When you are trying to find a partner of a different race, it’s important that they share the same values you have. If they don’t, they should at least be accepting of them. Otherwise, there are going to be issues with your relationship. Are your religious beliefs important to you? What if the person you are dating is an atheist? If you are a vegetarian, do you expect your date to be one too, or are you okay with them eating meat? What if education and family are important to your date, but not important to you? If neither party is on common ground when it comes to values, the relationship isn’t going to last.  It’s better to talk about those things now and get it out in the open.

Misreading cultural cues in a relationship can cause problems, too.  If your partner comes from a culture where their family is always involved in every decision and you don’t get along with their family, then that can cause problems.  Some families do everything together and when you date someone from that tightknit family, be prepared to spend a lot of time with them.

Stereotypes and Racism

Sometimes, there are just people who aren’t accepting of interracial dating. A lot of people don’t like white men dating Asian women.  Some Asian parents can’t stand it.  People are going to judge you when they see you together with someone outside your race. If you know your friends and family members aren’t going to be accepting of your interracialrelationship, be prepared for the consequences. There is no escaping stereotypes or racism, especially when you are dating outside your race. What you can do is stay strong, be positive and surround yourself with supportive people.

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